3 Steps to Do When the Masculine Doesn’t Text

I’m exploring this relationship with someone at the moment and even though the person shows me a lot of interest in real life, he is really inconsistent in texts and this was a point of anxiety for me in the past. I would just start to chase and demand what we are and where this relationship is going, but here’s what I found works best instead for me:

The 1st thing I do is feel my emotions. I noticed that anxiety was surfacing when I was going through it with this person and usually a lot of accusations (he's not interested, leading me on, not as invested as I thought) would also surface, even if this person had done nothing except not respond to a text in a few days, but being warm and consistent any time we interacted.

The 2nd thing I do is analyze how much time I am spending thinking about everything this person is doing, and then refocus on myself.
I know this is a difficult thing to do, but yeah, the goal is really to focus on having a great life. What I ended up doing was going on a date with myself, a restaurant and then going to salsa in the streets of Paris. I did not invent this, it was something I learned from a course called the Romance Attraction E-course. And if you ever want a reference to this course, we can talk more about it.

The 3rd thing I did is, after I felt all my feelings and healed, I really stayed warm and consistent with this person, especially because this is the very beginning of our digital communication and relationship. I can’t really judge his consistency over text as something that signals interest or not.
We are friends first and sometimes work together and this is super important to note that maybe the relationship needs to be way slower than normal dating.

The thing is, I also really wanted that friends-first phase in my ideal relationship. It's just that when I arrived to it, I was faced with the insecurities that other dating experiences made me remember. And if I listen to my anxiety, I would not let my relationship breathe and evolve organically.

It’s so important to build our relationship's foundation. This is a space that helps him and me value our connection so much more. It also helps us know each other very deeply; our values, our interests. And so far, it's probably the best foundation for a relationship I’ve had with anybody.

So yeah, don’t let your feelings overcome what is supposed to be a beautiful relationship and if you find yourself always ruminating and rehashing everything this person does, I’m Yoreen and I am your autistic and ADHD Love Coach (Certified), and you can work with me in order to free that mental space and actually enjoy falling in love with your person.